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[reargunner]

Okay.

How would you say sorry for something when 'sorry' doesn't feel like it can even begin to start the conversation.

[heyboss]

When things are too big, sometimes you need to acknowledge that you see the hurt that it's caused first.

[reargunner]

That's easy to say.

[heyboss]

And how do you feel about it? About the damage that was done?

[reargunner]

Like shit, obviously. Like I wish it never had to happen.

But it did. Wishing it hadn't won't change that.

[heyboss]

You're not trying to change it. You're trying to apologize.

That starts with acknowledging your feelings on it. Apologizing also means that you are committing to not doing it again in the future.

[reargunner]

I don't

This was a bad idea.
Just forget I said anything.

[heyboss]

You're alright.

Tell me where the misunderstanding was.

[reargunner]

[He nearly doesn't reply. He can avoid Sheehan, right?

But...]

I nearly ruined someone's life.
I could have got him killed. Or worse.

I fucked up, Lester, so much, and I

I didn't feel like I had a choice.

[heyboss]

What was the choice? To ruin his life or what? What would have happened to you?

[reargunner]

They would have sent me back to prison.

I just wanted to go home.

[heyboss]

That isn't a fair choice at all. But the fact that you feel guilty is telling.

[reargunner]

Of course I feel guilty.

I'm not a monster.

[heyboss]

No, you aren't. But I already knew that.

So how do you want to start?

[reargunner]

If I knew that I wouldn't be asking you about it.

[heyboss]

Of course. I gave you something to think about, though. So now you can practice it, if you'd like.

[reargunner]

Didn't give me anything to think about that hasn't already been on my mind for months.

This isn't a new problem. Just... one that's going to need addressing pretty fucking soon.

[heyboss]

Don't start with sorry.

Start with acknowledging the hurt. And the impact it had on the other person.

[reargunner]

I don't even know where to start.

[heyboss]

Name it. Name the feelings.

'I know that when I did - whatever it is that you did - I made you feel - '

[reargunner]

I can't just say it like that!

[heyboss]

Why not?

[reargunner]

It's not enough.

[heyboss]

That's why it's a start, Cain. It's not the whole thing. It's just the introduction.

[reargunner]

So what happens after that.