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Lester Sheehan
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2024-11-16 04:12 am (UTC)
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reargunner
Okay.
How would you say sorry for something when 'sorry' doesn't feel like it can even begin to start the conversation.
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2024-11-16 04:14 am (UTC)
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heyboss
When things are too big, sometimes you need to acknowledge that you see the hurt that it's caused first.
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2024-11-16 04:15 am (UTC)
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reargunner
That's easy to say.
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2024-11-16 04:17 am (UTC)
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heyboss
And how do you feel about it? About the damage that was done?
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2024-11-16 04:19 am (UTC)
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reargunner
Like shit, obviously. Like I wish it never had to happen.
But it did. Wishing it hadn't won't change that.
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2024-11-16 06:51 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
You're not trying to change it. You're trying to apologize.
That starts with acknowledging your feelings on it. Apologizing also means that you are committing to not doing it again in the future.
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2024-11-16 06:53 pm (UTC)
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reargunner
I don't
This was a bad idea.
Just forget I said anything.
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2024-11-16 07:18 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
You're alright.
Tell me where the misunderstanding was.
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2024-11-16 07:22 pm (UTC)
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[
He nearly doesn't reply. He can avoid Sheehan, right?
But...
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I nearly ruined someone's life.
I could have got him killed. Or worse.
I fucked up, Lester, so much, and I
I didn't feel like I had a choice.
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2024-11-16 07:34 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
What was the choice? To ruin his life or what? What would have happened to you?
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2024-11-16 07:43 pm (UTC)
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reargunner
They would have sent me back to prison.
I just wanted to go home.
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2024-11-16 09:34 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
That isn't a fair choice at all. But the fact that you feel guilty is telling.
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2024-11-16 09:45 pm (UTC)
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reargunner
Of course I feel guilty.
I'm not a monster.
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2024-11-17 01:05 am (UTC)
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heyboss
No, you aren't. But I already knew that.
So how do you want to start?
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2024-11-17 01:08 am (UTC)
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reargunner
If I knew that I wouldn't be asking you about it.
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2024-11-17 01:48 am (UTC)
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heyboss
Of course. I gave you something to think about, though. So now you can practice it, if you'd like.
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2024-11-17 02:01 am (UTC)
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reargunner
Didn't give me anything to think about that hasn't already been on my mind for months.
This isn't a new problem. Just... one that's going to need addressing pretty fucking soon.
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2024-11-17 03:39 am (UTC)
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heyboss
Don't start with sorry.
Start with acknowledging the hurt. And the impact it had on the other person.
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2024-11-17 03:56 am (UTC)
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reargunner
I don't even know where to start.
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2024-11-17 01:52 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
Name it. Name the feelings.
'I know that when I did - whatever it is that you did - I made you feel - '
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2024-11-17 03:10 pm (UTC)
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reargunner
I can't just say it like that!
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2024-11-17 06:34 pm (UTC)
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heyboss
Why not?
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2024-11-17 06:35 pm (UTC)
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reargunner
It's not enough.
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2024-11-18 01:11 am (UTC)
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heyboss
That's why it's a start, Cain. It's not the whole thing. It's just the introduction.
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2024-11-18 01:18 am (UTC)
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So what happens after that.
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Date: 2024-11-16 04:12 am (UTC)How would you say sorry for something when 'sorry' doesn't feel like it can even begin to start the conversation.
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Date: 2024-11-16 04:14 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2024-11-16 04:19 am (UTC)But it did. Wishing it hadn't won't change that.
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Date: 2024-11-16 06:51 pm (UTC)That starts with acknowledging your feelings on it. Apologizing also means that you are committing to not doing it again in the future.
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Date: 2024-11-16 06:53 pm (UTC)This was a bad idea.
Just forget I said anything.
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Date: 2024-11-16 07:18 pm (UTC)Tell me where the misunderstanding was.
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Date: 2024-11-16 07:22 pm (UTC)But...]
I nearly ruined someone's life.
I could have got him killed. Or worse.
I fucked up, Lester, so much, and I
I didn't feel like I had a choice.
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Date: 2024-11-16 07:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-11-16 07:43 pm (UTC)I just wanted to go home.
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Date: 2024-11-16 09:34 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-11-16 09:45 pm (UTC)I'm not a monster.
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Date: 2024-11-17 01:05 am (UTC)So how do you want to start?
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Date: 2024-11-17 01:08 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-11-17 01:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-11-17 02:01 am (UTC)This isn't a new problem. Just... one that's going to need addressing pretty fucking soon.
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Date: 2024-11-17 03:39 am (UTC)Start with acknowledging the hurt. And the impact it had on the other person.
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Date: 2024-11-17 03:56 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2024-11-17 01:52 pm (UTC)'I know that when I did - whatever it is that you did - I made you feel - '
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